Recent Topics Personal Notes Forum Preferences Terms of Use New Features

Author

Message

mominzion

Posts: 837

Posted: 28 Oct 2009 11:52 AM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

I know we all have been touched by cancer in one way or another -- some on here personally -- just got the call on my Dad. He has stage 4 cancer in the lungs, pancreas, and liver. He has been told 3 - 6 months. Not sure we will even have that long. He went to the hospital 2 1/2 weeks ago for a heart attack - and is coming out diagnosed with cancer - just mind blowing!
Sorry just seem to keep saying it out loud to make it real.

pitterpatterchildren

Posts: 103

Posted: 28 Oct 2009 12:19 PM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

I am so sorry! It is hard to go through. Just do your best to be there as you are needed. My heart goes out to you.

janieemma

Posts: 200

Posted: 28 Oct 2009 02:17 PM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

I agree! It knows no boundaries, it cares not who it hurts. But please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. And has been said, just be there as much as you can be.

momita

Posts: 584

Posted: 28 Oct 2009 03:33 PM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

Somewhere I read a little thing on "What Cancer Cannot Do". It really helped me. I'll try to find it...or if someone else has it, maybe they could post it?

morningdove

Posts: 45

Posted: 28 Oct 2009 03:49 PM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

Someone shared this with us when our son-in-law was battling cancer:

On a bulletin board in the Mayo Clinic (author unknown)

Cancer is limited.
It cannot cripple love.
It cannot shatter hope.
It cannot corrode faith.
It cannot eat away peace.
It cannot destroy confidence.
It cannot kill friendship.
It cannot shut out memories.
It cannot silence courage.
It cannot invade the soul.
It cannot reduce eternal life.
It cannot quench the spirit.
It cannot lessen the power of the resurrection.

My prayers are with you and your family.

acorns

Posts: 538

Posted: 28 Oct 2009 04:12 PM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

sure it does a close friend of mine like a mother who got me invloved in the church had cancer for the 3 time she went to hospital for phonemonia and she could not take all of the ilness at once just hang in their some times prayers and god do work mericals he will not give us any thing we can not handel my prayers are with tou at this time

knancy

Posts: 63

Posted: 28 Oct 2009 05:29 PM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

Jackie, I'm so sorry to hear the news. Love, hugs and prayers from me. Does he live nearby? Will you have to travel to visit?

forman

Posts: 13022

Posted: 29 Oct 2009 11:34 AM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

I'm sorry my friend...this is so hard. It is never easy to see anyone go through medical - health issues. It is really hard when it hits so close to home.

I hope that your dad will be well taken care of and you and your family can deal with the journey...

thegreatesthugger

Posts: 1218

Posted: 2 Nov 2009 08:27 AM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

So sorry to hear your news here.

I hope he lives close by so that you can help him, that he can feel your love and that you will be comforted along this journey in your life with your precious father. God bless you and your's..hugs...

ruud

Posts: 96

Posted: 2 Nov 2009 09:33 AM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

I am so sorry about your Dad. What an awful thing to have happened to him and happening to your family. I sometimes wonder why we suffer these things, but of course know why. To help us become stronger. But, its not fun or easy to go through. Our family just found out that our 15 year niece has cancer and will find out what type today. Its scary to think she can die from it if they didn't get it all. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family at this time.

penelopeanne

Posts: 1192

Posted: 2 Nov 2009 11:19 AM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

Here's another hug for you

Gail (and the cat)

mominzion

Posts: 837

Posted: 2 Nov 2009 01:32 PM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

Thank you all. I was able to go down (3 1/2 hours away) and take are of him for 2 days while my mom had to be gone from the hospital to get the house ready for hospice to come in with all their stuff.
I will forever be thankful for those two days to show him my deep love for him.
Part of me wants him to make at least the 3 month mark they gave him - but hearing how hard he coughs, and how weak he is - I don't want him to suffer too much or too long.

pitterpatterchildren

Posts: 103

Posted: 2 Nov 2009 03:02 PM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

Remember that the Lord truly knows when it is his time to be called home! It is the hardest part for us to stay behind and watch while it happens. I will keep you in my prayers. I am so happy that you were able to spend time with him. Don't hesitate to spend whatever time you can find with him. Hospice is wonderful. They truely are kind and caring and were a big help for my family. Remember that you are loved.

mominzion

Posts: 837

Posted: 3 Nov 2009 09:19 AM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

My dad cannot drink water from a straw now - this is all happening so fast (which is a blessing but hard). They have given him now only days. Part of me wants to run down there and be with him and my mom --- but he is not responsive now and I feel my mom needs this time with him alone.

thegreatesthugger

Posts: 1218

Posted: 3 Nov 2009 09:29 AM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

Big hugs to you Mominzion and prayers too...

floweraffair

Posts: 4814

Posted: 3 Nov 2009 09:41 AM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

It is hard to watch, to see them suffer. It really get to a point where you know it is best for them to go. I am so sorry for your earthly loss. hugs to you & your family.
LeaAnne

dbw6

Posts: 688

Posted: 3 Nov 2009 02:58 PM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

Dear Mominzion,

Hugs to you and your family. Glad to hear you have hospice. If they have not given you a book called "Gone From My Sight" ask them if they have it or can get it it for you. It is so wonderful.
I hear your pain. It is actually not as unusual as one may think that a person goes in for one problem and is discharged to hospice. My heart not only goes out to the pt. but the families bucause they function on a teeter totter of emotions, the first being shock. Then denial and on and on.
Give yourselves, as a family, and individuals,permission to navigate the range of emotions because if you do not you can actually make it more difficult for yourselves and your dad.
I agree in many instances quicker is better for the pt because of all the problems it causes: pain, sob, and other symptoms. When a person is admitted with no clue of cancer then to find it a stage IV is mind boggleing for the family because there has not been "time" to say good-bye.
MIZ I am going to say something that may be difficult..but when the times gets near for your dad... give him permission to go. Many patients will linger if they sense their loved ones are holding on.
Yes none of us want to lose a parent but it is more important for them to know you and the family will be ok.

Knowing Heavenly Father's plan is the one thing that helps me help others navigate through a difficult time.

I hope he is not having great difficulty with pain.
I wish we, as sisters, could stand around you and give a great big hug.

I hope you are fortunate to have a great hospice team...

Debi

mominzion

Posts: 837

Posted: 3 Nov 2009 06:12 PM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

Thank you all so much!

pitterpatterchildren

Posts: 103

Posted: 3 Nov 2009 08:12 PM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

Mominzion, Don't hesitate to go. Only you know where you need to be. Don't let anyone else make that decision for you. I would venture to bet that your mom would not resent you being there to help. Sometimes it is easier with everyone helping at the end. It can be a big relief not to have to be there on your own. Remember that we all deal with grief in different ways and trust that if your mom needs time with him, she will ask you for that. I also second the part about giving him permission to go.
I have seen them wait for that much long than needed just because one of the children couldn't let go yet. Know that your Heavenly Father is very aware of all of you and that your dad won't be alone in this journey. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

sonah

Posts: 1015

Posted: 4 Nov 2009 07:42 AM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

Nov 4th, any news?

What a blessing it will be when your dad is no longer in pain. When those who have passed away are beyond the veil, I like to think they are still very closeby, standing next to us or observing us from a distance, maybe....
I find comfort in these thoughts, I hope you will too, and I hope your mom and you and your siblings will be given the chance to say and do all the important things, before your dad closes his eyes.

I wish you peace and the loving comfort of Heavenly Father that probably comes to you through some of his other children.

kathyjune

Posts: 2

Posted: 6 Nov 2009 04:43 PM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

I just wanted to mention something that may help your dad. My sister died from Leukemia last year and wouldn't try this, but my dad tried it after being diagnosed with Prostate cancer and given a 25% chance to live....So if you want to call on this, it will cure cancer if you follow the instructions. It's just a lady that you call in Idaho, I'm not sure exactly what it is, but it's a combination of herbs, PROVEN, to work, and it worked for my dad. He had cancer spreading and he cancer free today. If you want more information, you can call me. The number of the lady to call is 208-845-2733 or 208-845-2255. Good Luck! My phone number is 435-229-0458 and my name is Kathy. Please, please at least call and get the information.

mominzion

Posts: 837

Posted: 7 Nov 2009 09:08 AM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

Thank you kathyjune. My Dad passed away last night. It was so aggressive that he only had a week and a few days from when they found it.

Thank you all for your love and prayers.

ruud

Posts: 96

Posted: 7 Nov 2009 10:50 AM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

Oh mominzion, I am so sorry for you loss. Words cannot express how tragic something like this is. I don't understand sometimes how these things happen, or why. I don't mean to be insensitive, but my niece was just upgraded to Stage 4 due to the doctor's finding nodules on her lungs. May I ask what kind of cancer your dad had? I am worried about my niece - she is only 15 years old.

My heart goes out to you and your family. We, mb sisters and I are thinking about you and praying for your family at this time.

pitterpatterchildren

Posts: 103

Posted: 7 Nov 2009 12:02 PM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

I am so sorry mominzion. I know it is hard. My family will keep your family in our prayers. Just know that you are loved! May you find the comfort you need to deal with your loss.

mominzion

Posts: 837

Posted: 7 Nov 2009 05:56 PM
Subject: Cancer Stinks!

They are not sure if it started out as lung cancer or cancer in the pancreas. When they found it - the cancer was in the liver, lungs and pancreas. They found it through fluid around his lungs - it tested positive for cancer - and they went from there.
I am so sorry for your niece - can they fight it? My Dad was 75 and ready to go - your niece is young and hopefully stronger and ready to fight if possible.
Thank you for your thoughts.