Life can be sweet. Our relationships with friends, spouses, colleagues, and family members can be wonderfully rewarding. They can also bring heartache, frustration, anxiety, and anger. We all know the difference between times when we feel open, generous, and at ease with people versus times when we are guarded, defensive, and on edge.
Why do we get trapped in negative emotions when it's clear that life is so much fuller and richer when we are free of them?
Bonds That Make Us Free is a ground-breaking book that suggests the remedy for our troubling emotions by addressing their root causes. You'll learn how, in ways we scarcely suspect, we are responsible for feelings like anger, envy, and insecurity that we have blamed on others. (How many times have you said, "You're making me mad!")
Even though we fear to admit this, it is good news. If we produce these emotions, it falls within our power to stop them. But we have to understand our part in them far better than we do, and that is what this remarkable book teaches.
Because the key is seeing truthfully, the book itself is therapeutic. As you read and identify with the many true stories of people who have seen a transformation in their lives, you will find yourself reflecting with fresh honesty upon your relationships. This will bond you to others in love and respect and lift you out of the negative thoughts and feelings that have held you captive. You will feel your heart changing even as you read.
"It would not be accurate to describe this book as supplying the truths upon which we must build our lives," writes author C. Terry Warner. "Instead it shows how we can put ourselves in that receptive, honest, and discerning condition that will enable us, any of us, to find these truths on our own."
Finding these truths is the key to healing our relationships and coming to ourselves, and Bonds That Make Us Free starts us on that great journey.
I picked this book up by chance in DB as I recognized the authors name from a B.Y.U. Educational talk given by Terrance Olsen 20 years ago. If you really want to understand the world around you, this is the book. I found the stories told exceptional and an easy way to understand the concepts taught and to remember them.
It has been life changing for me and my marriage.
I highly recommend this without reservation.
I know the author personally. Although this book has changed me dramatically on a personal level, what gives this book the most validity is the way that C. Terry Warner leads his life. I now work for the Arbinger Institute. For those who love this book, I invite you to join Arbinger's online community at arbingercommunity.ning.com. I would also like you to write and submit your personal stories of change. If you are interested in reading examples, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
merely going through only the preamble, this is a book that is worth reading and i know that it will bring a change of heart to the reader.
I had a class from Dr. Warner and was so impressed with him as a teacher and a person; I bought the book when it first came out and have learned so much from it. I appreciate how he teaches us to know ourselves better, to listen to the Spirit, and to overcome our weaknesses and challenges, as well as face truths in our lives that really will 'set us free'. I highly recommend it for anyone, including spouses and families! It is life-changing.
This book is a very honest and though provoking look at human relationships. I would recommend this book to anyone--male or female, old or young.
I read this book because other members of my family had and I wanted to see why. The first time I read it, I did not see what was so great about it. While going through a very rough time in my life I picked it up and started reading again. This time I could not put it down. The timing was perfect and helped me recognize things in myself that I was only seeing in other people. Now I can stop my self-betrayal.
I read this book around October 2002 when it first came out just having read a reivew of it in BYU Today. I cannot tell you how many issues became less obscure to me as it clearly explained, usually using cases, ways I could think differenly almost in the wink of an eye (a blink is too fast!). I was at a very difficult time in my life where I was being manipulated my situations that I simply fell into from no real fault of my own, except maybe fear and ignorance. Dr. Warner's book opened up the realities and paths--meaning there was a solution at every turn. I used this book literally as my guidebook and it worked! I cannot imagine getting the understanding I needed without it, as it attacks issues of personal deception so elegantly. I got quickly to where I needed to be. Simply amazing--like a bridge spanning a formidable ravine that would otherwise have been impossible to cross, or a hammer where there had only been nails...something like that.