That We May Be One

by Tom Christofferson

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That we may be one

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"'A happy gay Mormon.' That's the shorthand I often use to describe myself," writes Tom Christofferson. "Some of my gay friends—as well as some of the LDS friends—are a little surprised that I think it's possible to be a gay Mormon."

In That We May Be One, Tom Christofferson shares perspectives gained from his life's journey as a gay man who left The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and then returned to it. After having asked to be excommunicated from the faith he was raised in, Tom spent two decades in a loving relationship with a committed partner. But gradually, the love of family, friends, and strangers and the Spirit of the Lord worked on him until he found himself one night sitting in his car in front of the bishop's house...

This book is about the lessons Tom, his family, and his fellow Saints learned while trying to love as God loves. It is about the scope and strength of this circle of love and about how learning the truth of our relationship with God draws us to Him. For anyone who has wondered how to keep moving forward in the face of difficult decisions and feelings of ambiguity; for anyone who needs to better understand the redeeming power of our Savior, Jesus Christ; for anyone who seeks to love more fully; this book offers reassurance and testimony of God's love for all of His children.

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Book on CDUnabridged, 4 discs, approx. 4.9 hours, read by Tom Christofferson
Pages154
Size6 x 9
ISBN9781629723914
PublishedDeseret Book 2017

About the Author

Tom Christofferson

Tom Christofferson has spent his career in investment management and asset servicing, living in the United States and Europe. He has served as a director on corporate and nonprofit boards and was a founding board member of Encircle, a group providing resources to support LGBTQ individuals and their families in Provo, Utah. Tom is an active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and serves as a Gospel Doctrine teacher in his Salt Lake City Ward. Tom can be reached at ThatWeMayBeOne@gmail.com

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A must read for Latter-day Saints
By , Submitted on 2017-10-18

As I read Tom Christofferson's book there were times when I thought, “Yes! This is how a family should treat their gay loved one! Yes! This is how a ward should respond to a gay ward member!” The book is full of great anecdotes that teach powerful principles. The book is also full of little gems that really made me think. Like this one: “My resolve is that I might see the spark of the Divine in each person I encounter.” While that would make a great Pinterest meme, it’s an even better daily goal.

Tom’s book left me feeling inspired and uplifted. I wish every church member would read it because it gives real life examples of how we can love and care for someone who may be living their life in a way that doesn’t align with our beliefs. It’s a truly beautiful book. It doesn’t read as “how to be a gay Mormon.” In fact, Tom is very clear in multiple places that he doesn’t offer his life as an example, but that each person should seek their own path. I found beautiful principles in the book and was moved by the stories. I see it as a book for the straight members of the church who want to reach out in love to their gay loved ones. I would totally recommend this book to the parents of a kid who just came out. I hope that every straight person in the church will read Tom’s story, especially if they work with youth. Bishops, Young Men's and Young Women's leaders, and other leaders will gain a broader perspective by following Tom and his ecclesiastical leaders on their journey. This book is an excellent resource to better understand one gay Mormon’s journey.

Excellent book!
By , Submitted on 2017-10-17

A reminder of the importance of having the pure love of Christ towards all our brothers and sisters. Life changing.

Brilliant Sunrises on the Horizon
By , Submitted on 2017-10-14

Going into this book, I had three questions:

1) What is Tom's story?

2) What is his relationship with Elder Christofferson—just normal siblings, or does he wield great influence over his brother—say a shadow 13th apostle?

3) What should be my reaction to what I read?

So, number one: His is a powerful and engaging struggle of identity, loyalty, faith, distance, and atonement. I'm not sure he was ever a prodigal, but just someone caught between the riptides of faith and feeling, the dynamics of which changed and evolved over time.
What impressed me most was his doctrinal depth, and scriptural mastery. During his “down time” from the church, we suffered a great loss.

Two: is Tom a de facto 13th apostle? A hearty “No.” Pages 69-70 make this crystal clear. He was out of the loop on the recent policy update vis-à-vis same sex marriages and church relations to children.
And if you want to know the character of both men, Tom and Todd, just look at how they reacted to the announcement:

“In a phone call later that night, Elder Christofferson told his brother he had just taped an interview with the managing director of LDS Church Public Affairs, a position held at the time by Michael Otterson, and added, ‘If you feel you need to distance yourself from me, I will understand.’
“‘You have never distanced yourself from me, and I'm sure it hasn't always been comfortable for you,’ Tom Christofferson told his brother. ‘Of course I am not going to back away from you in any way.’”

That's all you need to know about these two men, two brothers, and two human beings.

Lastly, what should my reaction be?

I'm still divining that.

But I sense many brilliant sunrises on the horizon.

Very good book for any member whether or not they know someone who is LGBTQ
By , Submitted on 2017-10-05

This is such an important topic for everyone to become more educated about. Elder Christofferson's brother Tom takes us on a personal journey as he tells us of his experiences as a gay member who fell away from the church and then later came back. He offers great advice for those who have family, friends or members of their congregation who consider themselves gay, lesbian, transgender etc. Very much worth the read! I would recommend this book to everyone teens and up. I personally found the audio CD (read by the author) a little slow and dry through many parts so I would recommend the book so you can read it at your own speed.

"If you are a parent of a gay child who chooses to marry a same-sex partner, I encourage you to be there, to participate fully with happiness for their happiness. If you choose to not participate in that important moment of your child's life, you may have many years to regret the divide that can be created." Tom Christofferson

"Accepting others does not mean we condone, agree with or conform to their beliefs or choices, but simply that we allow the realities of their lives to be different than our own." Tom Christofferson

"If my circumstances are such that I feel like I cannot do everything I'd like to become like the Savior, at least for today, there are many important things I can do." Tom Christofferson

Perfect for our Generation
By , Submitted on 2017-09-25

Love is the answer when approaching any situation:). I LOVED THIS!! Thank you for taking the time to write it!!

Inspiring, enlightening, heartfelt testimony of God's Love
By , Submitted on 2017-09-17

I loved listening to Brother Christofferson's insight & perspective as a gay member of the church. His journey back into full church membership is evidence of God's love & care for His children. I have often had questions about issues relating to SSA & gender identity & Brother Christofferson shed so much light on how members of the church should approach our LGBTQ brothers & sisters--it is with love, as our Savior would do. Thank you for a faith promoting, insightful, & spirit filled book to help us all with this complex & important topic.

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