Encouraging Heterosexuality: Helping Children Develop a Traditional Sexual Orientation
This book offers a unique approach which unapologetically demonstrates how faith, tradition and science are complementary in the search for truth about what is best for children.
Their message is simple and clear: Parents can prefer and encourage heterosexuality in their children and can do so without disrespect or criticism for those who believe or differently.
Parents will find practical advice as well as cutting edge research to reinforce traditional sexual views.
By Cathe, Submitted on 2015-02-25
To start, their is some confusion with sexual identity and sexual orientation. Their is a difference. I see people using them interchangeably. I have a gay son and a heterosexual son. They were raised with the same values, rules, life applications. Yet one is gay and one is straight. In my heart I knew my son was gay from the time he was just a toddler. It was nothing in his mannerisms, or actions that told me this, it was just a knowing. Like most mothers who love their children. you know who they are. So it wasn't a shock when he came out as a scared 16 yr old. Further more he isn't a deviant. He is brilliant, kind, thoughtful, hard working, self motivated, and loving. This hasn't changed because I have loved and embraced who my child's gayness. I have to wonder about all of those who rated this book 5 stars if they have a child who is gay or transgender? How about loving and accepting your children for who they are, and not run in fear and shame because they were born attracted to the same sex? What a disservice.
By Gina, Submitted on 2015-02-25
"A child's sexuality is not a choice just like being left-handed is not a choice. He can pretend to be right-handed and may seem to do that somewhat proficiently, but will always innately be a lefty. He can pretend to be straight, but again, it's only pretending. Forcing someone to change can lead to suicide especially when using God's love (and lack of love) as a manipulation. Please refer to Family Acceptance Project's publication for real research and best suicide-prevention. http://familyproject.sfsu.edu/publications -- If you are LDS, you can also refer to the Church's official website Mormonsandgays.org which officially recognizes that being gay/SSA is not a choice."
By Katharine, Submitted on 2015-02-25
This book makes the assumption that sexuality is learned. I have a brother who was told in two different priesthood blessings by two different people "you are gay". That was his challenge on this earth. It is a challenge...an incredible one. But it is not learned. My brother does not fit into any of the "reasons" people give for one becoming "sexually confused". This book and those in this line of thought are very dangerous. Whenever I see a book on homosexuality at Deseret Book I pick it up. I have read so many others at Deseret Book that are so much more positive and help those with this challenge learn to love themselves for who they are and remain faithful to the Gospel and keep their covenants. A book like this teaches them that there is a part of them that is bad and should be removed. And when it doesn't go away, it leads to great depression, self-loathing and even suicide (I know too many in that category as well). Ty Mansfield has two incredible books out at DB PLEASE pick those up first! I promise you will be glad you did!
By Bill, Submitted on 2015-02-25
Even the mormonsandgays.org website owned by the Church says that sexuality is something we are born with. On what planet did anyone decide that this book was a good idea? It resorts to the most base homophobia possible, and preys on the fears and ignorance of parents. This only gets one star because zero stars was not an option.
By Drew, Submitted on 2015-02-25
Would have preferred to read a book titled, "Encouraging Empathy" ... I will definitely not read this with my children. If they want to be homosexual, they can. If they want to be heterosexual, they can. That is up to them and I will love and support them no matter what.
By Daniel, Submitted on 2015-02-25
Finally, someone willing to come out of the closet on the issue of homosexuality and it’s implications for childrearing who are not afraid to present their Christian point of view. The authors speak with the power of knowledge and guidance from the spirit. They yield no ground to the onslaught of criticism that is bound to come their way. It’s almost humorous that they have to go to such great lengths to convince others that homosexuality is not natural when all one needs to do is look at men and women. Is there not a goodness of fit? Can two men bear a child? Abbott & Byrd take a highly sensitive issue that society has clouded and confused and define a clear path for the parents of children young and old. Their suggestions are clear, sensible, and practical. I highly recommend this book to anyone concerned about their children in today’s society. Dan - 1/11/10
By Joseph, Submitted on 2015-02-25
Abbott & Byrd provide a well thought out set of directions and guidelines for promoting heterosexuality in youth. They are unabashed and firm in their recommendations and draw conclusions from many respected sources. In the battle for your children's hearts and minds, this is an important read that will arm parents with confidence and success. The premise of the book offers sound insight into the basic foundations of heterosexuality and may be the key that prevents a life of heartache for parents and family.
Abbott & Byrd also offer sage caution for parents who may "wonder" about their child's gender identity or sexual preference.
By Cody, Submitted on 2015-02-25
As a professional, bishop and parent I appreciated the way the authors approached the topic. They taught important principles with clarity and directness without being condescending or antagonistic to those who struggle with same gender attraction. It is clear that the authors intent is to help parents have the tools they need to create an environment that fosters healthy gender identify and clear eternal understanding of romantic relationships. I think the activities they have proposed are insightful and informed by both research and scripture. A great blend of academic understanding and religious foundation.
By Patrica , Submitted on 2015-02-25
Thank you for writing a book that approached a delicate subject with love and compassion. As a high school teacher I found it insightful and helpful in building my understanding of a topic I encounter daily. Great praise to the authors, Douglas Abbott and Dean Byrd.
By Chris , Submitted on 2015-02-25
Encouraging Heterosexuality in Children is an outstanding book, and I would highly recommend it for all parents with children. The world today sends many confusing messages to our children, and messages about sexuality are too often distorted, false and harmful. This book helps parents counteract these messages and proactively work towards developing an appropriate sexual orientation within their children. Parents should not just rely on their instincts but should empower themselves with the information and principles taught in this book. This book has helped us teach our children to be well-grounded, have positive self-images and to have healthy relationships. It is a very timely book!
By Benjamin, Submitted on 2015-02-25
The authors are experts in their respective feilds and the information they provide is timely. I find their advice and tools are sound and can help a great deal when dealing with gender identity and fostering heterosexuality.
By Gwen, Submitted on 2015-02-25
These authors don't even understand the difference between gender identity and sexual orientation. It is ridiculous and shameful that they pretend to have any applicable knowledge on either subject. Homosexuals do not choose their orientation, but these authors choose their own ignorance and perpetuate hate and discrimination.
By J, Submitted on 2015-02-25
This book is important to have for parents in a society that is muddling the meaning of gender. Authors assist parents in helping them understand what gender is and how to protect it. This guidance answers the call that Pres. Packer gave in the April 2009 Priesthood session: "Your gender was determined in the pre-mortal existence. You were born a male. You must treasure and protect the masculine part of your nature. You must have respectful, protective regard for all women and girls." This book WILL help parents and leaders protect their children's gender.