Getting Past "If Only"

by Kim A. Nelson

Getting Past "If Only"

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Do you ever find yourself stuck in if only and what if — wishing you’d done things differently or fretting about what might lie ahead? In today’s world, most of us have high expectations about what we should achieve, how we should behave, and how others should treat us. As a result, guilty feelings over regrets about the past and haunting fears for the future afflict countless latter-day saints, affecting their personal relationships, self-esteem, and peace of mind. You may be one of them.

But you can find tranquility in spite of the hurts and pains of life. In this life-changing book, author Kim A. Nelson offers four specific steps that will help you get past if only and what if by showing you how to take ownership of your life, make better decisions, set healthy boundaries, and avoid the comparison trap. Life will never be perfect, but past hurts and negative expectations don’t need to determine the level of joy you experience in your life. Using the concepts in this transformative book, you can throw off the burdens of the past and fears for the future, allowing you to live a happier, more fulfilling life.


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A gem of info
By , Submitted on 2015-02-25

I purchased this book on a whim. I know sometimes I let my 'if onlys' affect my thinking. If only I had a good mother, if only I hadn't made this mistake. If only..etc etc. I heard a talk along these lines of comparing ourselves to others this weekend which made me actually read the book today. Some very clear thinking on how to be happy. Quotes, scriptures & stories well used. I think this book changed my life. Over-all easy to read but some parts I had to reread to see the jump from one idea to the next.I will be reading this over and over.

About the Author

Kim A. Nelson

Kim Nelson, a graduate of Brigham Young University, has a master’s degree in counseling from Seattle Pacific University. He served a mission to the Southwest Indian Mission and is currently a counselor in the Bellevue Washington stake presidency. Kim is the president of Stillwater Connection, a consulting firm in Bellevue, Washington. He is the author of If God Loves Me, Why This? and Happily Forever After: A Practical Guide for LDS Couples Who Want to Improve, Grow, and Share An Eternal Relationship. He and his wife, Lois, have two daughters and three grandchildren.

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