Grow Your Marriage By Leaps and Boundaries
By Michele, Submitted on 2015-02-25
Thank you Dr. Jerry L. Cook and Sarah L Cook for my own autographed copy of Grow Your Marriage by Leaps and Boundaries. I have read it and highly recommend its content! I particularly appreciated Chapter 5 regarding Marriage Boundaries and Social Networking. Congratulations Jerry you have conceptualized and articulated powerful principles in building and growing strong marriages.
By Deanne, Submitted on 2015-02-25
I’m not used to conflict in my marriage but my husband are in a unique situation where fostering children has opened the door for adopting children and my husband and I are not currently on the ‘same page’. We are religious and both continue to pray for guidance on what is best for our family. I had a friend remind me that although my heart is wrapped around these three little princesses now in our home, my marriage is the most important thing and my husband comes first. So, I was motivated to read this book to gain perspective on how to keep that priority in place. Even good things can threaten a marital relationship if it is not the right thing at the right time and accepted by both parties.
What has helped me the most is the dialog in each chapter. I realized, humbly, that I am not skilled in communicating when there is a stress or conflict. Sometimes Dr. Cook starts with an example of how a conversation typically would go when couples are not ‘on the same page’. Then he gives another example of how it could have gone better and explains why. Often, he even adds a third and ‘best’ example of how to communicate when there is conflict in a specific situation. Just this valuable insight into effective communicating while under stress has made my purchase of this book worth it.
I also realized that there are things that I do, innocently enough, that could make my husband feel second to someone else. Dr. Cook covers many ‘boundary’ possibilities but in a way that is not preachy or all-inclusive. He encourages couples to consider what is appropriate for their relationship, encouraging them to think about and communicate thoughts and feelings by putting specific questions and activities in each chapter. Sometimes these boundaries seem like such little things, but it’s the little steps that take you to your destination, whether it be a happy marriage or infidelity or divorce.
There was so much thought-provoking wisdom in this book, I highly recommend it, especially to newly weds and anyone who wants their marriage to be joyful.
I haven’t read a lot of self-help books, other than parenting books, to compare this one to others on the topic of marriage, but I’m giving it five stars because I was so impressed with how invaluable it is and can be for anyone in a relationship or wanting to be in a successful relationship.
By lisa, Submitted on 2015-02-25
I just received my book last week and couldn't put it down, I love it! I have been following Dr. Cook on Facebook and Twitter and love all his advice and I knew the book would me amazing. I am not disappointed! I am going to buy a few more copies and give them as bridal shower or wedding gifts. I wish I had this book 16 years ago when I got married.