I Love You! is a collection of six complete talks by popular LDS speakers and authors who provide proven and powerful ways to overcome the challenges most couples face as they journey together down the path called marriage. From these CDs you will learn how to improve communication, appreciate the differences between men and women, speak your spouse’s love language, more easily resolve conflicts, foster greater love at home, and understand the connection between physical, spiritual, and emotional intimacy. Talks include:
Douglas E. Brinley in "Building a Better Marriage", speaks on the same thing that Boyd K. Packer talked about. "We seem to be developing an epidemic of “counselitis” which drains spiritual strength from the Church...It is not an unfeeling bishop who requires those coming to him for counsel to exhaust every personal and family resource before helping them...Teach our members to follow proper channels in solving problems...Some want to start with psychologists, with professional counselors, or to go directly to the General Authorities to begin with...(speaking to the bishops he said:) If you find a case where professional help is justified, be very careful. There are some spiritually destructive techniques used in the field of counseling. When you entrust your members to others, do not let them be subject to these things. Solve problems in the Lord’s way. Some counselors want to delve deeper than is emotionally or spiritually healthy. They sometimes want to draw out and analyze and take apart and dissect. While a certain amount of catharsis may be healthy, overmuch of it can be degenerating. It is seldom as easy to put something back together as it is to take it apart. By probing too deeply, or talking endlessly about some problems, we can foolishly cause the very thing we are trying to prevent." in short Douglas E. Brinley is trying to get members to use the Lords plan in solving marital problems which does include the help of professionals when directed there by the Lord after all we can do in humility.
All these people in this audio set are professional counselors and give you the gospel loving view on helping you strengthen your marriage as it did for me and my husband.
I had to turn this off when I heard Douglas Brinley in "Building a Better Marriage", when speaking of people who go to counseling or use medication say "Is the plan of salvation that weak that we have to turn to secular sources to solve our problems?" Does he know how harmful that can be to people who truly do need counseling or meds? Or to people who have been helped by them? As Elder Holland so beautifully said, "If you had appendicitis, God would expect you to seek a priesthood blessing and get the best medical care available." That doesn't make the plan of salvation weak. Again from Elder Holland, "Our Father in Heaven expects us to use all of the marvelous gifts He has provided in this glorious dispensation."