I didn’t have gold shoes, and I didn’t have time to go shopping, but I thought I could just spray-paint some heels I owned that I never really wore. I spray-painted them and tried them out for three hours at church where they held up perfectly. I felt pretty good about myself. “Suckers who buy gold shoes when they could just spray-paint them,” I thought, congratulating myself for my frugality and my foresight for testing them out.
As moms, we improvise. We get along. We make things word. And we make a lot of things up as we go along because, let’s face it, no manual is ever going to cover all the bases a real mom needs to touch. But if laughter and perspective and a renewed energy to face the day are what you’re after—if you too are a “real mom”—this is the book for you!
Abridged audio book
Not a mother myself, but I loved the book. It reaches across generations and different family situations and touches all with its positive and heartwarming message.
I am a real mom. How about you? While I've never gone so far as to spray paint myself a pair of gold shoes I have gone so far as to make things work with household items like tape and safety pins. Some thing have worked out and some, well, not so much. But isn't that what motherhood is all about? Making things up as we go. There is not one single right way to do everything and sometimes we just have to improvise, substitute or DIY. In this book Real Moms: Making it Up as We Go, Lisa Valentine Clark (remember her? from Pretty Darn Funny?), shares the ups and down of being the Mom. Complete with rants and "side rants." Lisa offers the reader a humorous and insightful look at Mommyhood. I found myself laughing along with her foibles and nodding my head yes emphatically over the things NOT to say! She is a real mom and she helped me discover that I am a real Mom too and that that is a great thing.
Lisa Valentine Clark translates the humor, realities, rants, and ups and downs of motherhood in her book in a way that we can all relate. She takes stories and situations from her own life and openly shares them with her readers. I feel like I've really gotten to know her.
She is great at sharing her observations, advice, and encouragement to just be you! And to share that all moms have hard times, come up short, wish we had nicer things, and that none of us really know what we're doing. But that's real life. And that's ok! Somehow our kids will grow up normally and have good memories of their childhood. :-) This was a fun, lighthearted, and uplifting read.
I've long considering motherhood to be one of the most challenging and rewording things that a woman can do. Once begun there is no going back and it's a 24/7 job. And yet it's often a job that gets heavily criticized. I know few mothers who feel completely adequate. Clark takes a look at this and shares her opinion on the matter. She shares some of her experiences as a mother along with her attitudes about motherhood and why it's okay for mother's to do things in their own way. Even though I am not a mother, I was surprised by how many things that the author discussed also apply to life in general. Especially related to the way women see themselves and how easily we fall into the trap of judging our weaknesses against others strengths. It's clear that Clark has a great sense of humor and has learned to laugh at some of the curve-balls that life throws at us. I think what I appreciated the most was her explanation that it's fine to do things in your own way to benefit the children. A book that I highly recommend, especially to those mother's who get so tired of being told they aren't doing enough. There are some great thoughts in this book (no advice though since the author doesn't give any ;)).
If you have seen Lisa in Pretty Darn Funny you know that she is DYNAMIC!
Now Lisa shares with us her take on REAL MOMS.
I LOVE how she states in the Introduction:
"Every mom should write a book on motherhood, and every mom could. We all have those special moments when the ridiculous happens and we look around wondering, why aren't there cameras recording all of this? We all find ourselves in situations no one could prepare us for--or, if they tried, we wouldn't have believed such things could happen to us."
We as mother's tend to compare our worst weakness to another mother's strength.
Lisa suggests that we "lower the bar so all moms can be awesome."
We need to let go of perfectionism and understand that we do a lot of "improvising" as Lisa so wonderfully writes...
"I didn’t have gold shoes, and I didn’t have time to go shopping, but I thought I could just spray-paint some heels I owned that I never really wore. I spray-painted them and tried them out for three hours at church where they held up perfectly. I felt pretty good about myself...congratulating myself for my frugality and my foresight for testing them out"...and then the gold started to peel off, in big chunks, leaving big splotches of pink during her very important red-carpet premier--(see picture on cover of book :)
Lisa shares fun stories of her love of improvisation and shows that there are a lot of parallels between that and of being a mother.
Filled with humors "acting stories," and "mom stories" and "side rants" this book is PERFECT for mothers everywhere.
Stop trying to be a perfect mom and rejoice in being a REAL MOM
Let us celebrate the uniqueness!
Let us embrace the differences!
Let us encourage the sharing of triumphs...and tragedies!
The best things we can do... is to do the best that we can do...and laugh along the way!
Read the entire book or just a few chapters.
There are stories in here that you will smile at, relate to, and most of all will want to share.
I LOVE THIS BOOK!
Grab a copy for a MOM that you love, including yourself!