And They Were Not Ashamed: Strengthening Marriage Through Sexual Fulfillment

by Laura M. Brotherson

And They Were Not Ashamed: Strengthening Marriage Through Sexual Fulfillment

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Finally! a book about physical intimacy and marital ONEness that is comprehensive, in-depth and frank, yet respectfully reverent while shining a light into the mysteries of the female heart and mind. And They Were Not Ashamed: Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment is the ultimate how-to handbook — power-packed with hope and help for creating a mutually fulfilling intimate relationship.

As three books in one, this "marriage book," "sex book" and "parenting book"

  • Shines light and truth on the intimate marital relationship
  • Effectively addresses, with solutions, the emotional, spiritual and physical intimacy issues that plague many marriages
  • Provides principles to help parents teach and prepare their children for lasting fulfillment in marriage and intimacy.


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based upon 16 reviews
Marriage: the joy of being one in all aspects
By , Submitted on 2015-02-25

We read this book together as husband and wife. It is very inspiring as we really come to understand the way men and women feel, think, and act in these intimate matters. We like also the way the spiritual side of sex in married life was instilled. We feel closer to each other more than ever before. Thank you so much as my wife sees me now as wanting her husband and not just having sex with him. It is a real blessing when we understand the principle of sexual intimacy blended with the emotional and spiritual. This book is placing sexuality in its right place and also a great help to teach children properly.

this book absolutely helps couples with sex addictions
By , Submitted on 2015-02-25

this book absolutely helps couples that suffer from a sexual addiction. as a man i have tried to explain to my wife how she can help me over come my temptations. granted i didn't fully understand why i was so weak in those areas, which the book does help explain. i also struggled to get my wife involved in helping, because she always thought that what i suggested was self serving. now her and i both realize the truth and are working to overcome our personal trials. this book has helped my wife realize her negative attitude and therefore reluctance sexually and has helped me understand why i am so tempted in those areas so i can overcome those feelings. Now we don't look at each other and think that the other spouse's problem isn't ours to deal with. We now know that we both can actively do things that can strengthen our marriage and show love for each other. now all the blame isn't being put on one individual, which doesn't help that person feel loved, which leads to weakness when temptation does come as it always will.
i feel like this book is actually several books in one were it does address several aspects such as physical spiritual and emotional intimacy communications and different styles of feeling loved. i have been able to help bring greater insight into my family relations college course after reading this book. i recommend it to all.

I only wish I had read this sooner
By , Submitted on 2015-02-25

I only wish I had read this book before my marriage ended in divorce because I had so many problems with a physical relationship. It was so hard to accept that something that had been wrong because we married was right after we married. I did not understand the that men express their love and feel loved during sexual intimacy and I did not understand the concept of oneness. I did not understand how unloved a man feels when he is rejected. It is an amazing book. I am so glad it has been written. And I actually found it to be very spiritual.

great book but not deeply spiritual
By , Submitted on 2015-02-25

This is a great book on building a loving relationship in marriage, teaching children etc but I've read better.
It has a very detailed instruction manual of the sexual act, so I definitely wouldn't give it to anyone until they were actually on their way to the honeymoon.
I commend Laura for her work, however Wendy Watson Nelson's book on marital intimacy did much more for us in making intimacy a deeply Spiritual, healing and powerful experience and eliminating lust and impurity. See my review on that book.

Great Book
By , Submitted on 2015-02-25

I really enjoyed this book. It was a great help for my husband and I when we were first married. I really enjoyed the "good girl" "bad girl" situation as I was feeling exactly like that.

The book helped me to realize that intimacy with my husband was ok and not a bad thing.

This book IS the answer to your prayers!! It was mine!
By , Submitted on 2015-02-25

Laura, It is a painful journey overcoming the Good Girl Syndrome you mention in your book and often I fall back to my old thinking. It takes me becoming discouraged and frustrated to see what has happened. I did not realize how much that GGS was a part of my chemistry. Some days I think I will never break free of it. That is good though because I am determined NOT to return to that awful way of life! My copy of your book is full of sticky notes and highlighted portions. I write notes in the margins and can see my progress as I reread those notes. I have come light years ahead of where I was when I discovered your book, but realize I am still in embryo stages in my growth. I am realizing more and more that if we will follow the promptings no matter how painful they are to go through, we will immerge on the other side much happier and much more fulfilled in our marriages. I am discovering, if I will strive to find the Lord's ways I find much more joy than if I try my own ways without His help. It is more of a journey than I thought and I am sure it will continue through the eternities as my husband and I build a Celestial marriage. I cannot thank you enough for your inspired writings and insights. I will continue to study and apply your book and share what I am learning with others. -Eternally Grateful KT from Arizona

Sex Life Changing
By , Submitted on 2015-02-25

Get a pencil, write in the margins, study this book. Then pass it to your spouse/fiance and have them do the same. Your intimate relations will never be the same again! In a good way ;-)

This book has stopped the tears.
By , Submitted on 2015-02-25

My husband and I have tried to deal with my struggle with intimacy since the day we were married 28 years ago. We talked, cried, prayed and saw counselors. My guilt was overwhelming. Then I bought this book, and our lives changed.

I can't describe how wonderful it was to get an LDS perspective about sexual intimacy and the struggle many of us have: "Now you're married & even though the 's' word was forbidden yesterday, today it's not only okay, it's expected!"

EVERY married couple should read this book. It is down to earth, uplifting, fun help.

good book
By , Submitted on 2015-02-25

This would be a good book for recently married couples. It helps work through inhibitions. It does give some help on teaching children about intimacy.

Great for Pre AND Post Marriage
By , Submitted on 2015-02-25

I picked up this book when my girlfriend was getting married and it helped me realize and overcome some of the qualms I had about "married life". It's very to the point and basic. Highly recommend!

About the Author

Laura M. Brotherson

Laura Mason Brotherson, CFLE, is the author of a groundbreaking book on intimacy and ONEness entitled, And They Were Not Ashamed --- Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment.She is a marriage and family life educator certified by the National Council on Family Relations, and has a Bachelor's degree in Family Sciences from Brigham Young University.

Laura shares her passion for building strong marriages and families as an author, intimacy educator, and relationship consultant. She publishes a monthly newsletter entitled, 'Straight Talk about Strengthening Marriage,' and speaks in various venues from couples' cruises and conferences to television and radio shows. She is a frequent presenter at BYU Education Week, and serves on the LDS Marriage Network Executive Committee.

Laura has served as Young Women president, Relief Society president, and Marriage and Family Relations instructor. She currently teaches Gospel Doctrine. Laura and her husband, Kevin, have been married 16 years, and are the parents of three children.

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