Finally! A book about physical intimacy and marital ONEness that is comprehensive, in-depth and frank, yet respectfully reverent while shining a light into the mysteries of the female heart and mind. And They Were Not Ashamed: Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment is the ultimate how-to handbook — power-packed with hope and help for creating a mutually fulfilling intimate relationship.
As three books in one, this "marriage book," "sex book" and "parenting book"
I started to read this book to gain a better understanding of what I needed to do to make and have a better marriage. It truly opened my eyes to see what failures I have and areas where I needed to do better to salvage my marriage. It also increased my understanding of the gospel in that I now understand that there are triangles congruent in the gospel principles.
It has created a new understanding of how the temporal and spiritual work together and that to God all things are spiritual. Just as we are commanded to become one with Christ likewise we need and are commanded to become one with our spouses.
This book is fantastic having changed my outlook on life, marriage and the gospel. Beautifully written in a very sacred way that elevates all aspects of marriage to the level expected by a loving Father in heaven.
We read this book together as husband and wife. It is very inspiring as we really come to understand the way men and women feel, think, and act in these intimate matters. We like also the way the spiritual side of sex in married life was instilled. We feel closer to each other more than ever before. Thank you so much as my wife sees me now as wanting her husband and not just having sex with him. It is a real blessing when we understand the principle of sexual intimacy blended with the emotional and spiritual. This book is placing sexuality in its right place and also a great help to teach children properly.
this book absolutely helps couples that suffer from a sexual addiction. as a man i have tried to explain to my wife how she can help me over come my temptations. granted i didn't fully understand why i was so weak in those areas, which the book does help explain. i also struggled to get my wife involved in helping, because she always thought that what i suggested was self serving. now her and i both realize the truth and are working to overcome our personal trials. this book has helped my wife realize her negative attitude and therefore reluctance sexually and has helped me understand why i am so tempted in those areas so i can overcome those feelings. Now we don't look at each other and think that the other spouse's problem isn't ours to deal with. We now know that we both can actively do things that can strengthen our marriage and show love for each other. now all the blame isn't being put on one individual, which doesn't help that person feel loved, which leads to weakness when temptation does come as it always will.
i feel like this book is actually several books in one were it does address several aspects such as physical spiritual and emotional intimacy communications and different styles of feeling loved. i have been able to help bring greater insight into my family relations college course after reading this book. i recommend it to all.
I only wish I had read this book before my marriage ended in divorce because I had so many problems with a physical relationship. It was so hard to accept that something that had been wrong because we married was right after we married. I did not understand the that men express their love and feel loved during sexual intimacy and I did not understand the concept of oneness. I did not understand how unloved a man feels when he is rejected. It is an amazing book. I am so glad it has been written. And I actually found it to be very spiritual.
This is a great book on building a loving relationship in marriage, teaching children etc but I've read better.
It has a very detailed instruction manual of the sexual act, so I definitely wouldn't give it to anyone until they were actually on their way to the honeymoon.
I commend Laura for her work, however Wendy Watson Nelson's book on marital intimacy did much more for us in making intimacy a deeply Spiritual, healing and powerful experience and eliminating lust and impurity. See my review on that book.
I really enjoyed this book. It was a great help for my husband and I when we were first married. I really enjoyed the "good girl" "bad girl" situation as I was feeling exactly like that.
The book helped me to realize that intimacy with my husband was ok and not a bad thing.
Laura, It is a painful journey overcoming the Good Girl Syndrome you mention in your book and often I fall back to my old thinking. It takes me becoming discouraged and frustrated to see what has happened. I did not realize how much that GGS was a part of my chemistry. Some days I think I will never break free of it. That is good though because I am determined NOT to return to that awful way of life! My copy of your book is full of sticky notes and highlighted portions. I write notes in the margins and can see my progress as I reread those notes. I have come light years ahead of where I was when I discovered your book, but realize I am still in embryo stages in my growth. I am realizing more and more that if we will follow the promptings no matter how painful they are to go through, we will immerge on the other side much happier and much more fulfilled in our marriages. I am discovering, if I will strive to find the Lord's ways I find much more joy than if I try my own ways without His help. It is more of a journey than I thought and I am sure it will continue through the eternities as my husband and I build a Celestial marriage. I cannot thank you enough for your inspired writings and insights. I will continue to study and apply your book and share what I am learning with others. -Eternally Grateful KT from Arizona
Get a pencil, write in the margins, study this book. Then pass it to your spouse/fiance and have them do the same. Your intimate relations will never be the same again! In a good way ;-)
My husband and I have tried to deal with my struggle with intimacy since the day we were married 28 years ago. We talked, cried, prayed and saw counselors. My guilt was overwhelming. Then I bought this book, and our lives changed.
I can't describe how wonderful it was to get an LDS perspective about sexual intimacy and the struggle many of us have: "Now you're married & even though the 's' word was forbidden yesterday, today it's not only okay, it's expected!"
EVERY married couple should read this book. It is down to earth, uplifting, fun help.
This would be a good book for recently married couples. It helps work through inhibitions. It does give some help on teaching children about intimacy.
I picked up this book when my girlfriend was getting married and it helped me realize and overcome some of the qualms I had about "married life". It's very to the point and basic. Highly recommend!
My wife and I love to listen to one cd each day while we drive on our date night. Listening to Laura read the book allows us to talk and understand more. It has really helped us understand each others needs.
This book puts to much emphasis on the sexual act and not enough on what needs to come before in a marriage such as respect, love, tenderness, courtesy, sacrifice. Chapter 3 is the only thing of worth in the whole book. I think it has more information than is needed. It doesn't help someone with a spouse with a sex addiction.
I am so grateful that Laura Brotherson wrote this book! Before I read this book, I felt that noone really understood the mental blocks that many LDS women have that hold them back in the area of physical intimacy. This book is different is a marriage-saver. It is candid, yet still respectful and completely appropriate. The author shares her own struggles and the journey of healing she has gone through, and more importantly, offers encouragement and hope for all that need similar healing. Even if the physical aspect of your relationship is not in dire straits, it can probably still use improvement. Women will feel validated, understood, and encouraged by reading this book. Couples will undoubtedly strengthen their testimony of the sacredness of marital intimacy, and will grow closer together on all levels from reading this book together.
This is the best book I have ever come across to help committed couples work together to strengthen their relationship. I only wish I had it earlier in my marriage. The last 2 years have been far and away the best of a 20 year marriage. I will give it to my children when they are ready to marry. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
I highly recommend this book above all other marriage/intimacy related books. It covers all the bases and provides the kind of education that most of us needed when we were first married. ALL married couples should have this book and should read it together.
After 3 children and nearly 30 years of marriage I have come to find out how healthy sexual intimacy between a husband and wife can strengthen bonds between them that no other thing can accomplish. I thought my husband and I had a great marriage and that we were doing fine until my husband and I listened to Laura Brotherson's audio book and I discovered not only was I hurting my marriage because of my prudish ways. We are acting like newlyweds again and it just keeps getting better...and yes, we have seen to it our married children either have or know about this inspired and enlightening book. It also handles these delicate issues in a very appropriate way and is needed in a world where Satan's views on sexual intimacy is winning too many hearts and destroying lives and marriages. Laura quotes scriptures and church leaders as well as respected BYU professors and authors in her book. I have given it as wedding gifts and 'just because I care' gifts and the people thank me over and over again for this priceless gift. Laura is wise beyond her years and has the courage to share her experiences and her convictions on these matters. Thank you from the bottom of my heart Laura!