We've all heard the old adage "beauty is in the eye of the beholder." But who is the beholder? Women today are bombarded by harmful messages in society about their bodies and appearance. We often feel inadequate and overwhelmed by the impossible-to-achieve ideals touted in the media. And sometimes our harshest critics are the eyes looking back at us in the mirror. No matter the source, when our image of personal beauty is threatened, it's important to remember who the rightful beholder of true beauty is—is our Heavenly Father. The adversary, ever jealous of our bodies, wishes for us to forget that our bodies are temples. He wants us to resent them as prisons and abuse them with unhealthy words, unrealistic views, and harmful behaviors. But the scriptures help us remember that "the body and the spirit are the soul of man" (D&C 88:15), "the worth of souls is great in the sight of God" (D&C 18:10), and that to discover our royal heritage, we mush look inside, "for the kingdom of God is within [us]" (Luke 17:21). By accepting these truths we are freed to see true beauty in and around us.
The essays in this uplifting compilation, much like their authors, come in every shape and size, but each reaches toward the same conclusion: beauty is truth. And the truth is that everything God created is beautiful, your body included—freckles and all!
Compiled by BYU Women's Services, this volume includes chapters by the following contributors:
- Cynthia L. Hallen
- Jana Parkin
- Jennifer Blaylock
- Ron Bartholomew
- Wendy Ulrich
- Kathryn Soper
- S. Michael Wilcox
- and many others
By Stephanie, Submitted on 2015-02-25
In this day and age, with modern media telling us what is beautiful and what it not, it is easy to get caught up in the trap that we are just not good enough. I am not thin enough. My teeth are too crooked. My hair is so flat and thin. Should I color my hair to cover up the gray? Ugh! Why can we not look at ourselves and see our true beauty and our worth? Satan has set a trap for women in attempt to convince us to forget that our bodies are temples, beautiful and of value to our Heavenly Father. He wants us to "resent them as prisons and abuse them with unhealthy words, unrealistic views, and harmful behaviors." We don't want to do that!
This little book is a compilation of essays from several authors, everything from favorite Time Out For Women speakers to young children. Edited by LaNae Valentine and Lisa Tensmeyer Hansen, each essay is thoughtfully written sharing perspectives on what makes a woman truly beautiful. I enjoyed each essay and many really gave me pause and helped me to reflect on my inner dialogue. I do not always speak kindly to myself and I need to do better. Every soul is great (and lovely) in the sight of God and when we accept this we are free to see how beautiful we truly are.
I enjoyed reading this little book, each essay can stand alone, but together they make up a wealth of inspiration.
By Rebecca, Submitted on 2015-02-25
This book falls under another book that I probably wouldn't have picked up at the store, but when I saw it come up for review, I jumped at the chance. It is full of inspirational stories, that every woman, young and old should read.
I love how it feels so personal. Each essay is written by a different individual, and talks about what they think "beautiful" is. It is so touching. Everyone has insecurities, even if they say they don't. We are usually our own worst critics. I know I am. This book really helped me to see how different and how beautiful we all are in our Heavenly Father's eyes. Notice I said "different". No one person is the same. How thankful I am for that. We all need to find our "beautiful".
I have to admit in my head I am still young, and skinny. I seriously have to wonder if it is me staring back at me when I look in the mirror because my outside is not what I see. I don't know if that is a good thing or a bad thing, but I can honestly say that sometimes I think a stranger is looking back at me. Like I said, in my head, I am still that 18 year old, skinny girl who just got married, and is looking forward to a life with her spouse. How thankful I am that I am NOT that 18 yr old anymore, because life is so much better now than it was then. I may not be skinny, and fit like the world thinks I should be, but I am happy with who I am. This book made me realize that it is OKAY to be who I am. I have never really been one to "follow the crowd", but every girl wants to hear they are beautiful.
So many times in this book, these short, sweet essays women talk about how they use to see themselves, and how their perspective has changed. Beauty is so much more that what we see on the outside. This book helped me realize how important it is to build a person up, and never tear them down. Words are so powerful. I have to admit I am the type of person who usually doesn't care what people think about me. I don't care if others think I am beautiful, or out going, or funny, or anything. The only thing I want people to think about me is that I am a good person. I don't know if people think that or not, but I sure hope they do. I hope that I am never the cause of someones embarrassment or discomfort. I know I probably am at times, because I have the "open mouth insert foot syndrome". BUT, I can say that, that is never my intention. I don't have a filter, and sometimes that is a bad thing. I speak before I think. This book really showed me how important it is to THINK before I speak.
If you are a woman, read this book. Know that you are beautiful just the way you are. Heavenly Father made you, you are a Princess, a Daughter of a King. We can always strive to be better, but don't ever fall into the pitfalls society thinks we should fit in. Each one of us is a divine daughter of God. Every person has something to contribute to this world. Be kind. Remember you are beautiful because Heavenly Father made you!
This really is such a great book. So inspirational, and touching. Be good to those around you. Build people up, never tear them down. BE BEAUTIFUL!!!
By Shauna, Submitted on 2015-02-25
Do you ever find that in trying to be "virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praiseworthy"...
Seems to "twist us into self-shaming preoccupation with appearing more virtuous and more lovely than others, envying others' good reports, and feeling unworthy unless we merit the praise of" others?
THIS BOOK WILL HELP WITH THAT!
Amazingly wonderful stories of people who have...
overcome the need to be perfect~
overcome the need to compare~
overcome the need to feel shame about their bodies~
I LOVED Anna Packard's list of gratitude:
"Thank you body for allowing me to experience every day completely. Thank you eyes for the opportunity to see the beauty and majesty of the world around me. Thank you nose for the pleasure of smelling delicious food and the familiar smell of my husband. Thank you lips for tender moments kissing the soft doughy skin of my newborn daughter. Thank you mouth for allowing me to nourish myself with food and to enjoy new tastes...etc."
Can we be GRATEFUL for our bodies? Even the parts we find lacking?
Susan Law Corpany shares:
"Many years ago I was looking forward to a landmark high school reunion. With plenty of time to accomplish my goals, I started my pre-reunion diet. I tracked my progress not only on the scale but by tracking my measurements. When I proudly announced to my teenage son that I had lost a quarter-inch off my ankles--that's a quarter-inch per ankle, mind you--he put his hand on my shoulder and said, 'Mom, remember that this is the part they put in the ground when you die.'"
This book will help you:
* forget about minimizing pores and worry about the poor among us
* worry about sagging spirits and less about sagging body parts
* worry less about crooked teeth and more about having crooked habits
* worry less about thinning hair and more about thinning patience
* worry less about love handles and know that love handles about any situation you are in
"Be generous with you love, and you will never run out of it. Love regenerates itself--it grows by giving. Beauty is the same. Beauty regenerates itself--it grow by being generous with you love."
EVERY WOMAN NEEDS TO READ THIS BOOK!
SO MUCH TO OFFER!
IT WILL HELP OUR MINDS AND SPIRITS AND BODIES :)