Motherhood is the toughest job you'll ever take on: there is no interview, no job description, and no salary. When you get the position, it can be all too easy to feel under-qualified and overwhelmed. But with a sweet message of encouragement, Christie Gardiner reminds women there are as many ways to be a good mother as there are mothers in this world—and there's no one more capable of raising your children than you!
In this uplifting book, mothers are encouraged to let go of the quest for perfection and recognize the divinity within. Learn to own your strengths and weaknesses, and allow your true self to shine! With practical advice on learning to accept failure, hold on to your identity, and harness the divine help available to mothers, women will gain the confidence to embrace their uniquely perfect qualifications for the job of motherhood.
I'm a father and a grandfather. So why did I buy and read a book titled You Are the Mother Your Children Need? Because I'd heard Christie Gardiner has important things to say and I suspected they apply to parents of either gender. I was right.
This is a magnificent book. It's written in a user-friendly, conversational style that makes you feel as if you're chatting with the author across your kitchen table.
Although much in this book will touch your heart, there's also plenty to stimulate your mind and challenge some of the self-defeating perspectives you might have--not just about parenting, but about everything else in your life. You'll find wise and thoughtful insights that will help you appreciate your own gifts and regard your imperfections as--well, as simply human.
I'll be buying copies of this book for many of the people I love (my copy now has too many highlights and marginal notes to lend).
Motherhood is both the most glorious job available to women and the most devastatingly hard. While I am not a mother myself, I avail myself of the opportunity to watch mothers so that I have an idea of what kind of mother I would like to be should the opportunity ever come. There are days when I long to be a mother, and other days when I am sincerely grateful not to be one. But I know myself well enough to suspect that I would be one of those mothers who never thinks her efforts are good enough. Feelings of failure seem to be very common among the mothers that I know. Which I suppose is why the first chapter in this book made me teary-eyed. Frankly, I love the idea that Christie Gardiner presents in this book, the idea that yes, "you are the mother your children need". I loved the fact that she shares her own stories of both success and failure. Stories of her own struggles to feel like she's good enough. The chapter on divine worth is one I believe that all women need to read, not just mothers. The book is full of tips about motherhood and changing our beliefs about what motherhood is and how own perfectionist beliefs that tend more than anything to make us miserable. I appreciated the chapters on taking care of yourself so that you can better care for your children and not comparing your way of mothering to someone else's way, someone else who has different gifts, abilities, and talents. This is a fabulous book and I plan on passing it on to a mother I know who needs a boost, who needs to know there's hope. Highly, highly recommended.
I don't always make it through non-fiction books the fastest, so I was super surprised when I was able to finish this one in just a couple of hours. I loved everything about it!
I loved Christie Gardiner's voice in this one. It really felt as though I was sitting down with a dear friend and having a conversation about not only motherhood, but life in general. I loved her clever insights, her kindness towards not only those around her, but most importantly herself and her limitations.
I loved the way she talks about your children needing the "real" you. They don't need what you think mothers should be, they need you with all of your foibles, and your own talents. What a great chapter! I loved the way that I could see through reading this, that it's really okay to be who and what I am. As long as I'm trying to be a good person and mother, anything I lack will be made up somewhere else.
I also really liked the way this book is an empowerment book, not a put down anyone book. I loved the way she includes a chapter on the dads. How great they really are and how we need to work together and fight against the whole "stupid dad" image that the media tries to portray.
This is a great book for moms everywhere to read! It's amazing!
This book is geared toward mothers of the LDS (Mormon) faith. I really loved it because I often feel like a failure because I don't do this, I'm not like that, and my kids act like the other. This author uses encouraging and upbeat words to let mothers know everywhere that there is no perfect role--we are each exactly who we are specifically for the children we are raising. We should all embrace our strengths and talents, as small as they may seem, and use them to recognize how important our roles are in our kids' lives.
This book covers many aspects of motherhood, from failures to successes to helping others. My eyes were opened because I have to admit: there are occasional times when I wonder, "What did I do to deserve this?!" I was given my children because we can all learn and grow from each other and we are exactly what each other needs. These are great words to re-read for those rough patches and I plan on doing exactly that.
*I received a complimentary copy through the publisher, which did not affect my thoughts in any way.*